Good morning, Sarah.
Wednesday, December 3
The gap between what you say and what you do reveals your hidden anxiety.
What if instead of monitoring them, you journaled about what you're actually afraid of?
Your accountability conversation is ready.
It's honest, uncomfortable, and exactly what you need to hear.
You are catching patterns 8× faster.
The Protest Loop
When you feel insecure, you withdraw affection.
Let's talk about this week.
- Monday: You texted first 8 times
- Tuesday: You texted first 11 times
- Wednesday: You texted first 9 times
You're not giving space. You're chasing.
What's actually going on?
This is the 4th time this exact sequence happened.
The issue isn't dishes. It's that you feel abandoned when they have independent social time.
Why do you pick fights instead of saying "I feel anxious when you have plans without me"?
You're teaching them your boundaries are negotiable.
Two weeks ago, you didn't catch this pattern at all.
Last week, you caught it after 2 days.
This week, you caught it in 6 hours.
You're getting faster at seeing yourself clearly. That's growth.
"Why do you tell yourself you're 'giving space' when your behavior shows you're desperate for reassurance?"
"What would happen if you actually gave space? Are you afraid they'd notice you're not there?"